Wednesday, September 19, 2007

Strip Club Tipping Etiquette

When I was writing Strip Club Etiquette for Customers, I realized that the art of tipping deserved an entire category unto itself. So here it is. Please add any I've missed in the comments section. It's been awhile. I'm three years out now. Wow - and it seems like yesterday.

  1. Place your tip on the stage rather than in your mouth or by handing it to the dancer. At least in BC, there are laws against tipping that involves contact. Dancers and customers cannot pass objects between them by (liquor) law. Many dancers are very uncomfortable taking tips with their breasts, as well. They fear getting fined by the club or charged by a liquor inspector. While I realize that we've all seen many items being passed between dancers and customers, and I wasn't even aware of any laws against it when I was dancing - I was probably the smallest breasted dancer out there taking titty-tips - it really is best for all interested if you'd just place your bill on the stage. And regardless of whether a dancer is willing to take tips with her breasts out of your mouth or not, I've never met a dancer who prefers to take tips that way over just being given the tip on the stage. So, it's also just a lot more respectful and considerate to do it the way I've suggested.

  2. If you're uncomfortable tipping on the stage - really shy or something - you can give it to her personally at the DJ booth. But if you give the tip to the DJ, the dancer may never see it. The DJ may may simply forget or he maynot be trustworthy. All DJ's are not created equal, although some fucking rock. (waves enthusiastically at Pat at the Number 5 Orange)

  3. If a dancer has posters to throw out to the crowd and you really, really want one - give her $5 for it. I've never seen a dancer NOT give a poster to a customer who tipped $5 or more for it. Posters cost money. Take into consideration the photo shoot, the cost of printing and everything and we're looking at thousands of dollars that led to that poster you're hollering for. Dancer's appreciate earning some of that money back when tossing out posters to the audience.

  4. Always tip your server and your VIP dancer. For drinks, $1/drink is appropriate. For VIP dancers, $5-$10/dance is appropriate depending on how long the dance lasted.

  5. If you expect a dancer to sit with you for a long period of time when she's on a VIP shift, pay for her time. Pay her what she'd likely make doing private shows - the equivalent of two or three dances should suffice for a bit of time - and her drinks. If your conversation is compelling enough, she may hang out for a long time. If she gets antsy to go back to work, you can offer to buy her a drink when she takes her next break, or if you can afford to and enjoy her company - pay the equivalent of two or three more dances again. A warning though - I've never met a dancer who'd sit with a guy that was being vulgar or touchy-feely, regardless of how much he was spending on her. Dancer's have their limits on what they'll tolerate. Do not assume that spending money on a dancer gives you the right to treat her disrespectfully.

  6. Some dancers don't like to drink alcohol at work, so they may accept your offers of drinks but have an arrangement with staff to get juice and the money instead. If you suspect this is the case, let it go. Chances are at least some of her drinks are real. And she'll sit with you all day if she's earning money for it. Unless you're a schmuck. Like I said in #5, no dancer will sit with an arrogant ass or vulgar jerk for $5 a drink. If she's still there, you must be interesting company.


Keats said...

Excellent advice! Getting the straight scoop like this is really helpful. My only question is that I've heard that sometimes it's better to tell the waiter 'no thanks' on the drinks and simply give the money you would spend on them to the girls. Is there a balance there?

Annie Temple said...

If the choice is between giving the dancer money and buying her drinks, she'll likely prefer the money. But she may feel like having a drink. So you should just ask. Ideally, a customer might buy a drink and pay for some time for the dancer to enjoy the drink without having to go out and hustle more dances.

Mr Happy said...

When I tip her on stage, I like to feel her and whisper something to her like "If you want to make some money come see me." Just throwing the tip on the stage or leaving it on a rail is strange to me.